Self Esteem is defined as “confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect.” For the majority of my life, I did not have confidence in my own worth or abilities with little to no self-respect.
Hi, I’m Stephanie and I have low self esteem. However, it’s slowly building up day by day.
I can’t even count on my hand how many times I’ve been told “If only, then that….” “If only you were skinnier, prettier, more quiet, motivated, blah di blah di dah.” Apparently, there’s this magical bridge that a unicorn greets you at when you’ve “made it,” I have yet to see this majestic creature and I’m pretty sure none any of us will either. But if you have, I bow down.
The thing is, the only majestic creature is YOU. YOU are the one who determines what you are worth. No one can tell you otherwise. And if they do, they’re a real asshole. Also, don’t be an asshole either.
But here’s the deal, it’s easier said than done, am I right? Comparison is truly the thief of joy. I’ve been guilty of looking at someone else’s story about their wellness, financial situation, fashion sense, or vacation and fell a little bit inadequate that I’m not “there.'“ Too many times, we get sucked into this loop because it’s so easy to do.
Nonetheless, WE are the author of our own story. WE determine what, how, why, and where we want to do all of the things, good or bad. It takes tremendous courage to simply try to do something different or scary. What if you try it and it doesn’t work? What if you do it and you don’t get the outcome you desire? What will others think of me? What if I change?
Friends, we’re supposed to change. We’re supposed to evolve. To live a more fulfilling life that is ours and not what someone thinks it should be. With every choice we make, we learn something from it. We grow just a little bit more even if it’s nominal. You are slowly become a badass, even if you don’t think you are. Others see it before you will.